Age wrinkles the body, quitting wrinkles the soul-Douglas MacArthur
1. Start Small – ‘Baby-steps’
By far the biggest mistake people make is impatience and acting too soon, excepting results. You can’t lose 20 pounds in a week, nor does nature allow you to produce a tree a month after planting the seed. Although you can notice loosing 1 pound or you can see the seed sprout. Taking ‘baby steps’ helps us become more experienced within the field and provides us the foundations for us to notice our ratios and in-turn our value.
2. Get It On Paper
Whether setting your first goals, tracking daily progress, or sharing your deepest thoughts with a journal, writing things down crystallizes your ideas, exposes underlying fears, and pinpoints your focus, so much so that you can start designing your life. Imagine that, ‘YOU CAN DESIGN YOUR FUTURE AND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE TO HOW YOU WANT IT!’
3. Focus on Daily Rituals – (your everyday habits)
The building blocks of a healthy lifestyle are forged in the smallest of actions you take every day and every week. Healthy choices can become as natural as brushing your teeth or locking the front door. Build one ritual a day until it becomes a habit, then move onto the next…. R0emember, one action at a time.
4. View your Goals twice daily
Goals need attention. They need to be seen and heard and thought of often if they ever hope to come true. So surround yourself with as many reminders as possible. I have a vision board in the office, on my Mac and my phone, whenever I have some down-time even if its 2 mins, I view my goals and use all my senses to be there, 5-10 years ahead enjoying living my dreams of today.
5. Discipline yourself – Be Consistent
Whenever we get into a plane, notice how the plane starts its journey on the run-way, our head pins back and we feel the plane is really going fast. The plane then becomes airborne and we soon get up out of our seats to walk around, it almost seems like the plane is going slower than when we were on the ground, but this is where the plane is going at its fastest pace. Initially all these new activities, rituals etc will seem exciting and will almost pin your head back, but then you’ll come to a boredom stage and the mind will start to play tricks on you, ‘You’ve been doing so well… why don’t you have a break?‘ NO! you must be consistent, as consistent action, no matter how small, has more power than you ever imagined
6. Always be learning & growing
Always remember the Jim Rohn quote, “Work harder on yourself then you do on your work!” there is so much truth in this simple quote. When I was studying my life coach certification, my teacher Steve G Jones (*) said, “the mind needs to be told what to do” thats when it hit me. I realized why the mind becomes influenced so easily, the mind needs to be told what to do, this is the minds job to be told what to do. Often being a young Cop on the streets of UK, I always wondered why emergency situations would get out the most subservient natures within people, because they needed to be told what to do. A healthy & successful lifestyle is a process—a journey more than a destination and the mind can become weak if not regularly dipped in the ocean of good association, so read everyday, develop yourself, make this personal development part of your daily practice until it becomes more of a priority than even brushing your teeth.
7. Inter-dependancy – Come out of Seclusion
Has anyone ever achieved anything of real value all alone? Probably not many. Most receive some form of help from other people. Support, information, a sense of shared experience, encouragement, advice, and a well-timed pep talk are all invaluable as you set off on your adventure. This partially goes back to No. 6, but with more emphasis on others, there are three stages of growth, (a) Dependency – you guide me and support my decisions, mentors etc all come in this (b) Independence – this is the mode of ‘I’ you have flown from the nest, are making your own decisions as well as taking responsibility, (c) Inter-dependancy – this is the highest form, realizing you can only do so much by your own self and reliance on others will increase your productivity by ten-fold and more.
8. Allow for mis-takes
Accept the fact right now that you will make mis-takes, as this can be a positive thing, long as you Stop, Reflect and move-on with lessons learnt. We are usually harder on ourselves that we are on anyone else we know, so get yourself our of your body and become your own best friend when you decide to become critical. Be supportive (instead of critical) when you stumble, and enjoying your wins (think how are you have come in such a short space of time) when you succeed. In order for us to move towards success, we have to appreciate and be happy with where we currently are, do this and watch your life propel into the life you have always dreamt.
9. Trust Your Plan
Neil Armstrong once said, “You only have to solve two problems when going to the moon: first, how to get there; and second, how to get back. The key is don’t leave until you have solved both problems.” Your goals must be set like that, you have an ultimate goal and then some smaller goals to get you to where your going, in actual reality it is a case of becoming the person you have to become to attract this ultimate goal. Once you have your goal-plan set then just trust your plan. Sure there will be times when you’ll have up’s and down’s, frustrating days/weeks that make you feel like jacking it all in, but you will also have easy days that make you smile in gratitude that you are where you are. Neil Armstrong also stated, when going to the moon one must make ‘mid-course corrections’ due to solar winds various atmosphere pressures you may run off-course, so a revision of your plan must be tweaked to allow for them mid-course corrections. If you notice these mid-course corrections simply are invitations of yielding and adapting to change. This is where your learning comes in, this is where your interdependency and consistency comes in to play, recession or no recession you will see opportunity in all areas. So trust your plan and trust yourself.
10. Have Fun!!!
Who says following your dreams has to be a chore, a burden to be endured or suffered through? Probably a very unhappy person, that’s who! This is an exciting adventure of self-discovery and building a meaningful life. I guarantee you, if you see ‘going after your dreams’ as fun there is NOTHING that will stop you because you will not have worked a day in your life, instead your life will become an adventure…. Enjoy your journey for it shall make you into the person that can contribute hugely into changing the World!